Using Curiosity to Celebrate Your Wins and Avoid Self-Sabotage
Most people carry around beliefs that they are not enough. Do you have thoughts like this that lead to feelings of overwhelm, like you’re not doing enough, and result in self-sabotage? You’re not alone. It’s difficult to resist feeling stressed and even depressed when witnessing others around us doing great things in their lives, let alone celebrate our wins. Curiosity is a tool we can embrace to shift our focus from comparing and feeling inadequate, to becoming more present in life and capturing what we’re doing that IS working.
Take a moment and ask yourself: “What can I do today that I couldn’t do a year ago?” Think about these successes in your personal and professional life and celebrate what arises for you. When we place our focus on the achievements we’re proud of, we begin to notice and see more of them. This process not only supports our growth, it takes us to the places we aspire to go in life.
You have probably heard the phrase, “comparing is the thief of joy,” and it couldn’t be more true. Most people fall into a pattern of comparing their lives to those of others and experiencing the resulting judgment. We are conditioned in society to believe that we are not enough, and we then race to do more to be seen and recognized. But what matters most is seeing and recognizing ourselves and feeling proud of our accomplishments.
Celebrating your wins positively affects you and everyone around you. Your shift inspires others to overcome their habits of comparing themselves to others and move to a place of self-appreciation, celebrating their own wins, and inspiring those around them!
Moment of Introspection & Leadership:
Our focus, inner worlds and projections comprise our reality. I can recall a time in life when I judged myself harshly because I felt frustrated by the lack of available time in my life, and the ways I was using that limited time didn’t seem to bring me any closer to my goals. I remember purchasing one of my favorite MiGoals journals, in which one of the prompts was to capture three of my wins for the day. My conditioning was so strong that while I loved the idea at first, I then witnessed myself quickly scratching out that prompt and replacing it with something that asked less of me. My inner world and projections held me back from accurately viewing the wins in just one day of my life.
Breaking habits and beliefs that hold us back requires a lot of awareness, courage and discipline. It’s a conscious practice that takes effort. I am a work in progress and I know that if I can be humble and have the courage to celebrate myself when no one is watching, it will give me the energy to keep doing things that are impacting myself and others positively. The energy I choose, either to feel like I’m overwhelmed and not enough or to know I’m experiencing wins each day, affects me and those around me.
I learn more and more each day that we have a choice to do the work that makes us feel good. My challenge to you this week is to make time and be disciplined to capture one to three wins each day. Then check in with your energy and celebrate those wins!
“5 little wins each day…
= 150 wins each month
= 1,800 wins each year.”
— Robin Sharma
REFLECTIVE & DISCOVERY QUESTIONS FOR THOUGHTS & JOURNALING
What is a win of yours that you are most proud of lately?
Whose win around you impacted you in a positive way?
FOR YOUR TEAM DAILY HUDDLE
What are we going for today that would give us another win as a team?